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10 Month Baby Update

Riese turned 10 months old on Monday! She is looking like such a big girl these days – it’s weird that she is now much closer to a toddler than she is to a newborn. I say this all the time, but, ahhhh, cue the tears – my little baby is growing up! (I know, I know, wait until she’s off to college, you say…) She loves knocking down blocks now so it’s hard to get a photo with still blocks in the mix, but this was kind of perfect because I’ll look back and remember what she was like at this stage from this photo! In a nutshell: busy, active, energetic, and so fun. <3

Here’s an update on baby + mama at 10 months.

Breastfeeding 

Riese is still nursing 5 to 6 times a day, although she’s definitely starting to get more distracted during feeds and drinking less from me each time. She’s also starting to eat more and more real food per sitting. It’s really bittersweet to think I might not be nursing her for that much longer. On the one hand, it would be nice to have more freedom during my workdays again to be gone and out of the house for longer… but on the other hand I love nursing her and don’t want that sweet time to come to a close. I kind of feel like she will always be nursing, you know? Weird to think that something I’m so used to now will be changing soon. We are still supplementing with some formula, especially in the evenings before bed when she wants more milk than I have/have pumped, and I’m still pumping before bed, but we’ll see how long I keep up the pumping.

I’m not really sure how to let the weaning process play out – we’ve always done the whole nursing thing totally baby-led, letting Riese tell us how often she wants to nurse, but I’m wondering if we need more of a structured approach for the weaning situation? She’s definitely losing interest and getting more annoyed by nursing/trying to run off and do other stuff, especially later in the day – so I’m not sure if I should keep trying or start to be more intentional about weaning/come up with a plan to do so? I’m happy to keep nursing her as long as she wants, especially first thing in the morning when she’s more into it and I have more milk, but maybe the later in the day feeds should start to go? I think I’m going to stop trying to nurse her before bed because she definitely prefers the bottle then (and she always gets a bottle top off, anyway, so that one seems like the logical nursing session to drop at this point), but other than that I’m not sure what to do moving forward. Help! :) Regardless of whether you breastfed or bottle fed, how did your baby wean from breastmilk/formula? And specifically for those who breastfed, when they started losing interest in nursing, did you give them a bottle at that time instead of nursing, or just do more real food?

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Real Food

Speaking of real food, Riese LOVES food – we are lucky to have a good eater (for now, anyway – I’m sure the picky phase will happen). Her favorite foods are still fruit, yogurt, nut butter, and meat and fish (we do shredded chicken and salmon a lot and she loooooves it – and she also loves meatballs). She still hates scrambled eggs despite my frequent attempts to give them to her. ;) The only way she likes eggs is as part of my flour free breakfast pancake – she loves that! That’s what she’s eating in the photo below (along with some strawberries and some sneaky scrambled eggs she obviously ignored, lol).

baby led weaning ideas 10 month old

We are still doing a mostly baby led weaning approach (more on how we got started with that in this post: Our Experience with Baby Led Weaning, and a more recent update on BLW was in the 9 month baby update post). We do pouches, though, when we are out and about and it’s too complicated to bring other food with us, and that has worked well. In the past couple weeks we’ve noticed she’s really starting to eat more real food quantity-wise, and we are starting to offer her real food more often, too (3 to 4 times a day now vs. 2 to 3). Here’s what her food (and milk) schedule looks like right now – we let her lead us so if she’s hungry sooner or later we adjust as needed, but this is just kind of where it seems to settle nowadays:

  • 6 or 7 a.m. (whenever she wakes up): nurse
  • 8:30/9 – real food breakfast
  • 10:30 – nurse
  • 12:30 – real food lunch
  • 1:30/2 – nurse
  • 3 – real food snack (if hungry – sometimes we skip this, or just do a pouch if out)
  • 4:30 – nurse
  • 5:30 – real food dinner (if hungry/she didn’t have an afternoon snack)
  • 6:30 – evening bottle (and sometimes nursing, but like I said above I think I’m going to switch to 100% bottle b/c she’s too distracted and impatient to nurse at this time and I don’t have enough milk anyway)

She usually goes to bed between 6:30 and 7, and sleeps all night (I know, we are so lucky, and I have zero advice because I think we just randomly have a good sleeper) until 6 or 7. In terms of naps, she usually takes two really short naps per day – usually about 30 minutes around 9:30 a.m., and an afternoon nap around 1 or 2 which is usually closer to 45 minutes (occasionally longer or shorter depending). She sleeps in her crib at night and for naps when we are home, but also sometimes naps in the car or in the stroller.

I’m wondering if it makes sense to consolidate some of the nursing and real food sessions so she’s not eating basically all day long, but I know some babies like consolidated feeds and others don’t… thoughts? If we do consolidate, do I nurse her first and do real food after? Why does this feel so complicated?! :)

Developmental Stuff

Riese is crawling like a madwoman now, and really into pulling up on things and standing. No walking yet, but she can support herself while standing (with something to hold onto) and she loves practicing walking with us holding her hands.

She still loves jumping in our laps and in her jumper, too. She’s super active and never stops moving. I love that she is more interactive now and that we can play fun little games with her, like peekaboo, rolling a ball back and forth, clapping, waving hello and goodbye, or crawling around together (she thinks it’s really funny to be chased – I love her laugh!). Speaking of crawling, she is FAST now – and always goes directly to either the electrical cords or the dog bowls. Of course!

Riese also loves using us as human jungle gyms, and going on the baby swings at the playground! She also really loves music – I’ve taken her to some baby/toddler music classes that she LOVES – and I’m going to sign us up for a baby gymnastics class, too, because I think she’ll have a blast. We are also starting swim lessons in a month – she doesn’t love water/bath time, so we’ll see how that goes…!

Also – SHE HAS TEETH! A few weeks ago she was reeeeeally fussy during the night and screaming when we tried to get her to go to sleep and sure enough a couple days later we noticed a tooth peeking through! Now it looks like there are three teeth peeking through as of today – randomly all are on top, with no teeth on the bottom yet, although apparently bottom teeth normally come in first?

Mama Postpartum

I’m feeling more like myself physically every day, but still not 100% there which I’m sure is normal (and probably related to still nursing – did those of you who nursed until around a year or longer feel more like yourselves physically and in terms of workouts and stuff when you weaned, or was there not much difference?). I still have a little bit of numbness, tenderness, and puffy-ness at my C section incision area – not sure if that is normal at this point? Probably. I need to be better about doing scar massage more often because I bet that would help! But, running is starting to feel more normal physically (just hard still!) and as the weather cools I’m really excited to start running a little bit more seriously again. Not seriously like training for a marathon or anything, but just in terms of being able to slowly start increasing pace and distance a bit! My first postpartum race – the MCM 10k – is coming up in a month! I’m pumped. :)

The main thing I’m working on otherwise right now is trying to figure out how to get more excited about work again. (I’m working 3 days a week, and I feel really lucky that I am able to spend 2 full weekdays at home with Riese.) I’m still enjoying my AnneTheRD client work, but I’m in a bit of a rut with the blog, so I’m trying to figure out how to make my blog work more fun/engaging again for both my sake and yours. I think part of the problem is that I’m usually working alone on blog stuff, and it feels, well, lonely, especially since blog-related work is a large part of my workday. (It takes a lot more time to run a blog as a business than you would think!) So that said, if anyone local is also extroverted and does a lot of recipe development/playing around in the kitchen and wants to meet up on a frequent basis to do so together, let me know. :) I’m wondering if it makes sense to do this with a fellow dietitian/food blogger/recipe person as just a casual meet up (I’m talking to a dietitian friend about this already and excited about it!), or whether to hire an intern or assistant or something… or both? We’ll see. Now that I’ll have more time and flexibility soon on workdays because I won’t be nursing all the time (since I work from home, I’ve been fortunate to be able to nurse Riese during my workdays), I think the more opportunity I have to collaborate and work with others in person rather than just virtually to develop content, brainstorm new ideas, etc., the better. It would be a nice way to keep things fresh and I think would benefit you guys as well as me!

Speaking of nursing, it sounds like Riese is ready to eat, so it’s time for a work break! I’ll catch you guys back here tomorrow – have a great day!

Comments

  1. 1

    My experience with postpartum is that your emotions and energy will change after breastfeeding. There are still a lot of hormones running through your body. Your interest in the blog may change as well as your appetite. Good luvk!

    • 2

      That’s what I’m hoping! I haven’t been super inspired or excited about food/recipe development stuff since I got pregnant, to be honest, which means I make a lot of the same things over and over… and that’s not that fun or interesting for anyone to read about (or for me to write about). It doesn’t help that in this time period I also haven’t had much fitness stuff to write about! As I start running more again that will be fun for the blog because I always enjoy writing about fitness (but right now my fitness is just the same classes each week vs. pretty/unique runs).

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    Nerves take a really long time to regenerate and sometimes the numbness around the c section scar won’t totally go away. My scar is still numb 26 months later, but the size of the numb area went down a lot after 12-15 months. So numbness is totally normal!

  3. 5

    I’m a longtime reader and love your blog. My daughter is 21 months and we just stopped breastfeeding. I never thought we would go this far, but I just followed her lead. It was probably a 6 month process overall going from three daytime feedings to nothing. My advice is not to wean too soon or you’ll miss it :) There came a point in time that it became more clear that we were both ready. Good luck!!

    • 6

      Thank you for reading! :) And yeah… I think I’m going to have a hard time emotionally when she starts to wean for good… ahh! So weird to think about being done! I’m hoping it will be obvious when we are both done, though, so it feels less confusing… definitely not there yet!

  4. 7

    About 6 months post-partum (after my second baby) I was surprised to find a new passion for running. Before having kids, I had been a runner for many years. I had always enjoyed it but would never have called it a “passion.”

    But when I had baby 2…suddenly time was precious like it never had been before, and my love for running really changed in a profound way. It became about time for ME – for renewal, for peace, for nature, for friends. Baby 2 is turning 4 in a month (!) and this passion has only continued to strengthen over the last few years. Of course it’s different for everyone, but I look forward to hearing how your journey unfolds and what will serve as your new/renewed source(s) of inspiration. :-)

    • 8

      I hope it’s like that for me – I miss being really passionate about running! Although I’m always passionate about seeing running buddies :)

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    I started doing a scar massage nightly about 5 weeks ago and I cannot tell you how much it has helped! I highly recommend it, I just use some coco butter and massage it for 5 minutes every night. One side has improved faster than the other, which is apparently pretty normal. One side you can barely tell I have a scar, the other side is more raised and still a little pink but is SO much better than it was. Also, the numbness has subsided considerably. It still doesn’t feel quite normal but I certainly feel more than I did 5 weeks ago. And, honestly, it’s a relaxing habit I now look forward to and has made me less anxious about that area of my body.

    Also, I’m still breastfeeding myself but I’ve heard from other moms that they just let their baby and own bodies dictate weaning and they didn’t have formal plans. I can definitely say that my supply has gone done, especially in the afternoons, and that’s when my son eats more real food. It just happened naturally, no planning. So that’s how I plan on continuing! Good luck!

    • 10

      Okay this has convinced me to start scar massage – thank you!! Fingers crossed it makes a difference. How far out from the C section are you? I’m hoping it’s not too late for the scar massage to make a difference for me!

      • 11

        9 months! It’s not too late! Per my physical therapist, I can take up to 6 months to see results. She recommended an circular motion and an up and down motion over the scar and said not to press too hard because of your organs.

  6. 13

    First – I have been reading a long time and still enjoying your blog, post baby:) Weaning experience….I was pregnant really fast after my first child, so when I was nursing a 9 month old and pregnant it was HARD and hurt. I was really determined to nurse (pump during work) until he was a year, which I did. I continued nursing in the morning for a couple more months, but I knew I did not want to nurse a toddler while I had a newborn so I weaned the morning session when he was 14 months. We did it over a few days my husband was home in the morning, so my child just did not see me in the morning and seemed fine. After a few days he had moved on (even though I think he would have kept this session up if I had let it go on). Alternatively, my second child just completely lost interest shortly before her 1st birthday. I could not make her nurse and so we just quit naturally, me following her lead. I think if you are comfortable still nursing, you can just follow the baby’s lead. If you are kind of feeling a desire to quite at some point, my advice is to not be around when you are dropping nursing sessions so your child is not thinking, “it is right there – why can’t I have it??!” Feeling passionate about work after having a children took me a long time. I worked full time at first but balancing everything was hard. I am now part-time and my children are 7 and 8 and for the last 3-4 years, I have been enjoying my work again. For the first few years, it did feel like a grind. That might sound like a long time on the front end, but on this side, it really is a pretty short season of life. I still have LOTS of working years left!

    • 14

      That’s reassuring to hear I’m not the only one who feels pretty un-passionate about work post-baby… and also reassuring to hear you got back into it eventually!

  7. 15

    Congratulations! Time flies. I’ve nursed my kids for relatively long stretches, so all my advice comes from NOT wanting to stop nursing at 1. If you follow Lactation Link she has helpful advice. One key takeaway is that most babies won’t self wean before 18 months. So, if you want to keep nursing, prioritize nursing when R gets the most out of it. I nursed on demand until I was ready to wean and then I was more diligent about when and how long. I’d probably stop pumping at this point, unless you are pumping to make a full bottle. And until 1 I would provide breastmilk before food. But that’s just my experience.
    And my 1st c-section scar “reminded” me it was there for 2 years… the second one, not at all.

    • 16

      That’s good to know! I’m not ready to stop totally, but I wouldn’t mind starting to consolidate/reduce frequency juuuust a bit. I like the idea of stopping pumping though… I think I’ll do that for a few more weeks because I have a trip with Matt coming up for our anniversary that I want to leave milk at home for, but after that I think the pumping is gonna go. That’s really interesting about the 2nd C section scar not bothering you – it was in the same spot and everything?! I would think second time would take longer to heal!

  8. 17

    Regarding weaning, I weaned my first at 13 months and she didn’t even notice. She was totally over it. My second nursed for 27 months but after the first year most of that was morning and night. Took us a few days to wean with slightly more fuss. So I think you just follow her lead and see where it takes you. I think my first was only morning feeding for several months before we just cut it off. You will figure it out! And the good news is that kids seem to have no memory of nursing. My son (second kid) will see other moms nursing and just have no idea what that is all about. And he was over 2 when he stopped! You’re doing a great job navigating it all. Oh and also, expect some kind of hormone change when you stop nursing. Might bring out emotions, or just other hormone-related spikes or dips. :)

  9. 19

    I definitely did not feel like myself again until I stopped breast-feeding…although I was READY TO BE DONE when she turned one :) I was also working full-time and pumping, so a different experience overall! I think I would have kept nursing for longer if I wasn’t dragging pumping supplies to the office every day. As for my C-section scar……um, mine still feels different and my “baby” is 4 1/2! It’s not like it actively hurts or anything, but if I run my hand over it I can feel the scar tissue built up below (weird) and it’s kind of numb to the touch. I think everyone is different and will heal in different ways!

  10. 21

    I didn’t feel like myself again until he turned 1 and we were down to one very quick nursing session before bed (which we kept up until 17 months. Then one day I was done and that was that.) But in some ways, I never went back to my “old” self—my world has changed and along with it, my energy, interests, and body (I gave birth to a 10-pound baby…these hips are never going back haha.) I feel like when I’m with my son, I am “mom” but when I’m not with him, I’m 80% me and 20% still “mom.” Not sure if that makes sense! As for nursing, we kept up 5ish feedings until a year and then dropped to 3 times a day and then to morning and night pretty quickly after that. Then we did the one night feeding for awhile.

  11. 23

    My daughter is 13 months old and I feel like the day revolves around food lol! I have always nursed right after she wakes from sleep (morning and after naps) so as she has dropped naps I have slowly dropping nursing sessions. Right now I nurse her 4 times a day (pumping for one of those sessions on work days). I’m currently reducing the amount I pump each day to cut that session out since that is the time of day I am mostly not with her. I am going to continue giving her half the normally amount of breast milk in her sippy cup and the rest whole milk until I run out of frozen bm and then just replace that feeding with whole milk. Right now we do Nurse at 6:30, breakfast at 7:30, nurse or sippy when up from nap 1 (around 10:30/11) and snack, lunch at 12/12:15, nurse and sometimes snack around 3, dinner around 5, nurse around 6. It is definitely confusing to figure it out! My daughter loves to eat so I find she would rather eat more frequently. I try to pair nursing or whole milk with snack time and keep it separate from meals but it probably depends on the child. My goal is to get down to nursing just morning and night with in the next few months but my daughter is currently going through major separation anxiety so it might take some time since nursing is a comfort for her (I work in a school so it was hard going back to daycare after being with mom all summer!)

    • 24

      Riese definitely seems to prefer eating more frequently too… it seriously feels like it’s all day! But then I also wonder if maybe part of that is because my milk supply is going down and she’s not getting as much from nursing sessions?! So confusing to figure all this out!

  12. 25

    My son just turned 8 months and his feeding schedule sounds very similar but we haven’t added a third meal yet (no lunch) but I’m thinking about starting. I want to do some shredded chicken and salmon too but I’m nervous because we have mostly done puréed- how do you cook both (is it posted on your blog?) Also, I recently weaned him off breastfeeding (all formula now which he does better with because of bad reflux). I did it very slowly over 1.5 months I think. We just dropped one nursing session each week or so and replaced with formula. I did his least favorite ones first and saved the bedtime one for last. The last one was very emotional for sure but he did great which made me feel better. I didn’t realize how emotional the connection could be! As a fellow RD from NY I love reading your blog!

    • 26

      For the chicken, we have mostly just bought a rotisserie chicken at the store and shredded the meat… or just baked chicken with some oil and shredded after. Super simple! Same with salmon – just baked simply or pan seared and then I shred the soft parts (not the skin or crust).

  13. 27

    I feel you on so much of this – the work fatigue (even with an awesome unique unicorn work from home job like mine), trying to reignite my passion, and also on weaning. Penny self-weaned at 11 months and it was a very emotional process for me bc like, I wanted to be done but I wanted it to have been my choice?? So I did get pretty emotional when she just decided she didn’t have the patience for nursing anymore. We dropped before bedtime, then all daytime, then finally morning nursings. There’s definitely no right answer, just either figure out if you want to take concrete steps to either wean or to continue, or if you wanna just see what happens that’s cool too!

  14. 29

    My baby is exactly one month older Than sweet Riese! I had all the same questions and feelingnof overwhelm around nursing. At 10 mo we still nursed 5 times a day but I kept noticing the middle of the Day session was like pulling teeth- she was SO uninterested. At about 10.5months I dropped that session so now we just nurse upon wake up, before first nap, before afternoon nap and before bed. It works well for us right now because my girl loves eating real food too! Nursing is so amazing and hard- everyone is so different so I guess it just depends on what works best for Mom and babe! Congrats on making it this far! We are 1 month away from my 1 year goal :)

  15. 30

    6 weeks post c-section and I’m convinced I need to try doing massage! My hubby is a PT so I should have listened to him sooner but it just sounds so uncomfortable. I believe I live less than 30-60 minutes from you and I’m constantly working on new recipes/modifications that I take forever to get around to sharing… I need motivation!

  16. 31
    Laura Swanson says:

    We formula fed our daughter and in terms of “weaning” this is what we did. When she turned one we started mixing her bottles as 3/4 formula and 1/4 milk, then half and half, then 1/4 formula and 3/4 milk and then finally going to just whole cows milk. I can’t remember how long we did each stage-maybe 3-5 days? She never really seemed to mind. I know some people cut right over but then have issues with such a big change. Then we worked on moving to a sippy cup from the bottle. We did a bottle for the morning and before bed feed but any other feeds were sippy cups. The before bed bottle was the last to go as we wanted her full before bed to help her sleep (she wasn’t like Riese and woke up early AM to eat for a long time). It worked really well for us. Maybe stop offering a nursing session and start offering a sippy cup of milk?

    • 32

      This is really helpful, thank you! When she’s a year it will be nice to transition our evening bottle from formula over to cow’s milk… so much easier (and cheaper)! That’s interesting about the sippy cup vs. bottle, too – I totally forgot that was another transition that will need to happen soon!

  17. 33

    Love the updates and reflections. Very open and forthright. And great to follow developments with Riese and you! Thanks!

  18. 34

    Hi Anne!
    I know, it can be really confusing in terms of working out how to manage the breastfeeding/real food situation! I think that a lot of it comes from not wanting to stop people giving their babies milk before 1, so food should just be an extra, but I think by the time they’re closer to 1, they really want and need more food than breastmilk, and that’s been my experience with my two girls, who were both good and keen eaters!

    So what I did was start to combine the feeds, so perhaps go down to 4 rather than 5 or 6 to start with, so perhaps morning, mid morning, mid arvo, then evening, and then do 3 real food meals a day. My second girl is now 12 months, and we’re down to 3 feeds, morning, middle of day and evening, with 3 real food meals and snacks if wanted. I’m back at work 3 days so she doesn’t get the middle of the day one on those days and she’s fine, I will probably stop doing it soon, but keep morning and night while she’s keen – my eldest stopped entirely by 15 months, her choice, and was definitely losing interest way before then, but this one seems to be much keener so I might have to think about actively weaning in a few months!

    I wouldn’t replace breastfeeds with formula apart from the one you’re already doing, purely because if they’re growing well and eating enough otherwise, they don’t really need it.

    But it’s all up to what works for you and you’re comfortable with – when I transition down to less feeds, I find sometimes I’m feeding around a mealtime, and the milk might seem more of a snack than the real food! Which I think is fine, as my view is that while continuing to breastfeed does have lots of health advantages, it isn’t as filling as food for growing active babies, so what you’re doing with lots of real food helps. I also found structuring it a bit reduced the feeling of them eating all day!

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    I’m glad that you’re planning on starting c-section massage. There’s very little out there in terms of information – my midwives barely even acknowledged it.

    I saw a pelvic floor therapist about 2 months after my c-section and it was really helpful. She assessed my pelvic floor and prescribed some exercises as well as 3x/week castor oil packs. I’m home alone with a four month old who is teething and not sleeping through the night, so I haven’t done the castor packs quite 3x/week, but I really recommend them! You can just search on Amazon and buy a kit. It really helps with fascia release from the scar area helping the scar to be more flexible and make sure that your skin, fascia, muscles, organs aren’t knitting together.

  20. 39

    I love reading your updates about Riese! My little guy turned 7 months today so it’s fun to read about Riese and see what we have to look forward to. Our little guy is a terrible sleeper but hopefully he’ll be up less often soon… He’s had so many ear infections so that is partially the culprit. We are seeing an ENT later this month and he’ll likely (hopefully?) get tubes before year end. I definitely DO NOT feel like myself yet. Not even close, really. But I’m exclusively pumping, which I loathe as it’s a huge time suck. I was planning to drop a pump (I pump 4 times a day for a total of over 2 hours) at 6 months but that was assuming that Paul would start solids and he has no interest and hates everything we’ve tried. So until he starts eating solids I’m going to keep up my schedule. We were trying something every week but now we are taking a break until he shows interest. I’ve read that some babies aren’t interested in solids until 8-9 months but hopefully he shows signs of readiness soon as it would be nice to not be his sole source of calories. I also don’t feel like myself because I struggled to find/make time to exercise. Between getting up early to pump before I get ready for the day + pumping after dinner + going to bed early so I have a shot at 7 hours of sleep, I just can’t seem to find the time to exercise during the week. But I work full time outside the home so I’m gone 10 hours a day with the commute so my days are just so overscheduled. My mantra right now is “this is a season.” Eventually I’ll be done pumping and it will be easier to fit in workouts. I’m also feeling really disconnected at my job. When I came back, I found out I was getting a new boss and we are going through a reorg so things just feel very unsettled here. Plus we get so little time with our little guy since he goes to bed so early when we get home so I really really miss him while I’m at work. But I’m *hoping* I feel better about being back at work when he’s awake longer in the evenings. I’ve invested a lot into my career and my industry (finance/asset management) is NOT conducive to a part-time schedule so I am toughing out this season of life and hoping I feel better in 6-9 months? Le sigh.

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    If you are starting to wean or when you do, don’t forget that the hormones create wackiness that can also result in late-onset postpartum depression. Postweaning depression is serious and many people don’t talk about it or know it can exist.

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